Couples & Relationship Therapy
Stop having the same fight. Start understanding what's underneath it.
Maybe your conversations turn into arguments. Maybe one of you shuts down while the other pushes harder to connect. Or maybe you've started to feel more like roommates than partners.
Couples therapy is a chance to understand these patterns and build a different way of relating.
The pattern
It's not always about what you're arguing about.
Disagreements about schedules, chores, intimacy, money, or parenting often connect to something deeper.
One partner may feel criticized. The other may feel unseen. Both are often trying to protect themselves — and unintentionally creating more distance.
Understanding the cycle is how couples begin to change it.
Understand the cycle
Recognize the recurring patterns that shape your conflict and emotional distance.
Communicate with clarity
Find ways to express needs, concerns, and feelings more openly — and to actually hear each other.
Rebuild connection
Work toward deeper understanding, emotional responsiveness, and a stronger sense of partnership.
What we work on
Issues couples bring
- Communication difficulties
- Recurring arguments
- Emotional distance
- Trust and relationship challenges
- Premarital preparation (Prepare/Enrich)
- Major relationship transitions
- Family and attachment patterns
The approach
Emotionally Focused Therapy, in plain terms.
I draw on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and relational approaches. Together we map the dance you two get caught in — who pursues, who withdraws, what each move is protecting — and the emotions and attachment needs beneath it.
When partners can see the cycle as the problem, rather than each other, it becomes possible to slow it down and reach for each other differently.
A note on safety: joint couples therapy isn't appropriate in every situation. If there is ongoing abuse, intimidation, or coercive control in a relationship, we'll talk about individual support and safety first.